It is a known fact that in all relationships, there is always going to be an imbalance in love. One person will love the other person more than they love them. This does not mean in any way that the other person is forced by them or that they are both not in love, just that one side will be more relaxed about the relationship. There will be one person who is the driver of the relationship, while the other is just enjoying the ride. There are also a number of ways that men and women behave differently that may have the effect of tipping the balance.
1. Why you fall in love
Research has shown that men and women fall in love for different reasons. Men are attracted by the physical and have a tendency to rely on looks more. Women on the other hand, tend to fall in love based on the man’s behaviour or ability to provide, rather than his looks. One study found that women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t. The same study found that men who reported incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more email than those with $50,000. Of course there is no black and white on this, with a number of factors leading to attraction for both sexes. There is also research that shows that women in more healthy, affluent and developed countries prefer more feminine featured males over macho men.
2. A physical touch
You should never underestimate the power of a physical touch. Touches stimulate adrenalin and will make people fall in love more. This is partly the reason why colleagues at work fall in love or why friends fall in love. The next time you are on a date you would like to evolve into a relationship, you should try gently touching their arm as emphasis to what you are discussing. On initial dates it might be okay for a woman to touch a man on the leg if she is trying to be very suggestive. However, it is not recommended that men do this as it may be perceived as too forward or creepy.
3. Attraction happens quickly
Psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania studied data from over 10,000 speed daters and found that most people make a decision regarding a person’s attraction within three seconds of meeting. How to nail that first impression? In a survey of 5,000 singles conducted by Match.com, 43% said fresh breath mattered the most before a date, 17% said stylish clothes, 15% said sexy fragrance, 14% said good skin, and 10% said great hair.
4. You aren’t getting any younger
During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, “hooking up” increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the first time had begun creeping up. However, things move at different speeds for each gender. Research shows that men know they’re falling in love after just three dates, but women don’t fall in love until date 14.
5. How to utilise dates
The way you plan your dates can help you win over the love of your partner. For the first dates, you should strive for dinner or drink dates that are intimate, to help the two of you know each other better. You should also incorporate fun dates that involve a lot of activities. Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction.
6. Happy people win
Studies show that happiness is contagious and that potential dates find it hard to walk away from happy people. One of the biggest turn-offs during a date is negativity. Also people who are in a good, healthy with a relationship with a positive partner tend to be happier than normal people. Relationships are great for you when both of you have worked to make the union a healthy one.